Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care.” - Marvin J. Ashton

Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They can be overwhelming, exuberant, and ‘too’ full of life

  • (no one can ever be too full of life!)
  • However, you may be ‘too energetic’ for those you’re around.
  • They may be conservative and stifled

SOLUTION:

  • Real love isn’t forcing our energy on others
  • It’s loving ourselves enough to know we’re wonderful as we are, and loving others enough to care for their needs too.
  • If this curtails your wellspring of joy, be careful in your choice of who you hang out with.
  • Wonderful people can be few and far between, which is why we bring the Tribe together here!
  • Where you might find others? What groups they may be in? What interests might they have? Seek them out!
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Those with ADHD can overlook the needs of others

  • Whether through being in survival mode, boredom, or just not listening, people with ADHD aren’t always slow and focused enough to become aware of what others need, so they neglect to meet those needs

SOLUTION:

  • A cool antidote to this is to care for others as if it’s the last day on earth.
  • Or as if they died and came back, just for today.
  • This is a celebration of them.
  • Another option is to let go, be chill, and ‘be present’ with others.
  • It takes practice but quickly becomes a habit.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They constantly interrupt

Reasons for this include:

  • Excitement and enthusiasm
  • Wanting to share before they forget
  • Imagining they know what someone is about to say, so thinking it’s ok to butt in

SOLUTION:

  • Even if it looks weird, write down what you want to say, and wait until the appropriate time. This works well on the phone, and can be helpful in arguments too.
  • Listen more deeply to others. Start looking for new things. Believe they may have something interesting to say, or at the very least could be interesting people, even if their conversation is boring.
  • ADHD is known for repetition and verbosity. People listen to us, and we need to reciprocate!
  • If you find listening to the words of others boring, begin people watching through body language.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They don’t know how to explain ADHD to others

  • Being able to concisely explain ADHD, and the way it affects you is the game-changer.
  • It gives others understanding, enables them to make allowances, AND allows them to become excited about your positive qualities.

SOLUTION:

  • It’s vital you own your experience, and are confident in being you
  • Read through the blogs here, they will help you summarize ADHD, symptoms and the way it affects you. Then create your concise explanation to share with others.
  • Being confident in who you are, both personally and professionally, impacts the way you set boundaries in relationships and in your work. It is the foundation to changing your life.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They are easily bored and become disruptive

  • This can be in conversation or social situations
  • It alienates people because they don’t feel valued, interesting or cared for

SOLUTION:

  • Desensitize your senses so that you’re able to remain present
    • For example, when in company you might play with a fidget cube, a bracelet or a ring
    • You might stand rather than sit
    • You might rock slightly as you talk or listen
    • It can help to chew on something
  • Concentrate more on the other person. Be present, notice their body language, the tone of their voice; try to enter their world and understand where they’re coming from.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They lose focus and attention

  • Heightened sensitivity with ADHD leads to feeling constantly overwhelmed
  • When this happens, the brain throws things out, causing the person to become scattered and to appear inattentive
  • The brain will also shut down at times, making it impossible to get started or to focus
  • This causes people to think you don’t want to engage with them, when you may be trying very hard to do so, or just to remain ‘normal’.

SOLUTION:

  • Breathe
  • Take a break
  • Let go
  • Give yourself time
  • Don’t try to push through when the brain has shut down. The way through in this case, is around…
  • It’s in breathing and calming that you’ll enable the brain to fire up again and be able to get things done.
  • Ask for what you need, quiet, peace, calm, time, a peaceful environment.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Their energy may be totally out of sync with everyone else’s

There’s nothing wrong with your energy being different from that of other people.

However, there’s a secret to forming relationships: when you’re able to mirror the body language, and energy level of another, you bond with them.

If they’re slow and conservative, and you’re pinging off the walls, they won’t feel able to relax with you.

Alternatively, if they’re fast-talking, all action, and you’ve slumped into a depression, there’s also likely to be a disconnect.

SOLUTION:

  • Find people who match your energy.
  • Pick different people to hang out with at different times, depending on your energy.
  • If you’re not happy with your energy, you’re likely to be around people who struggle with theirs.
  • Work on you first, then seek people who resonate at your frequency.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” - A.A. Milne

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Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking together in the same direction.”- Antoine De Saint-Exupéry

Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They can be overwhelming, exuberant, and ‘too’ full of life

  • (no one can ever be too full of life!)
  • However, you may be ‘too energetic’ for those you’re around.
  • They may be conservative and stifled

SOLUTION:

  • Real love isn’t forcing our energy on others
  • It’s loving ourselves enough to know we’re wonderful as we are, and loving others enough to care for their needs too.
  • If this curtails your wellspring of joy, be careful in your choice of who you hang out with.
  • Wonderful people can be few and far between, which is why we bring the Tribe together here!
  • Where you might find others? What groups they may be in? What interests might they have? Seek them out!
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Those with ADHD can overlook the needs of others

  • Whether through being in survival mode, boredom, or just not listening, people with ADHD aren’t always slow and focused enough to become aware of what others need, so they neglect to meet those needs

SOLUTION:

  • A cool antidote to this is to care for others as if it’s the last day on earth.
  • Or as if they died and came back, just for today.
  • This is a celebration of them.
  • Another option is to let go, be chill, and ‘be present’ with others.
  • It takes practice but quickly becomes a habit.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They constantly interrupt

Reasons for this include:

  • Excitement and enthusiasm
  • Wanting to share before they forget
  • Imagining they know what someone is about to say, so thinking it’s ok to butt in

SOLUTION:

  • Even if it looks weird, write down what you want to say, and wait until the appropriate time. This works well on the phone, and can be helpful in arguments too.
  • Listen more deeply to others. Start looking for new things. Believe they may have something interesting to say, or at the very least could be interesting people, even if their conversation is boring.
  • ADHD is known for repetition and verbosity. People listen to us, and we need to reciprocate!
  • If you find listening to the words of others boring, begin people watching through body language.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They don’t know how to explain ADHD to others

  • Being able to concisely explain ADHD, and the way it affects you is the game-changer.
  • It gives others understanding, enables them to make allowances, AND allows them to become excited about your positive qualities.

SOLUTION:

  • It’s vital you own your experience, and are confident in being you
  • Read through the blogs here, they will help you summarize ADHD, symptoms and the way it affects you. Then create your concise explanation to share with others.
  • Being confident in who you are, both personally and professionally, impacts the way you set boundaries in relationships and in your work. It is the foundation to changing your life.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They are easily bored and become disruptive

  • This can be in conversation or social situations
  • It alienates people because they don’t feel valued, interesting or cared for

SOLUTION:

  • Desensitize your senses so that you’re able to remain present
    • For example, when in company you might play with a fidget cube, a bracelet or a ring
    • You might stand rather than sit
    • You might rock slightly as you talk or listen
    • It can help to chew on something
  • Concentrate more on the other person. Be present, notice their body language, the tone of their voice; try to enter their world and understand where they’re coming from.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

They lose focus and attention

  • Heightened sensitivity with ADHD leads to feeling constantly overwhelmed
  • When this happens, the brain throws things out, causing the person to become scattered and to appear inattentive
  • The brain will also shut down at times, making it impossible to get started or to focus
  • This causes people to think you don’t want to engage with them, when you may be trying very hard to do so, or just to remain ‘normal’.

SOLUTION:

  • Breathe
  • Take a break
  • Let go
  • Give yourself time
  • Don’t try to push through when the brain has shut down. The way through in this case, is around…
  • It’s in breathing and calming that you’ll enable the brain to fire up again and be able to get things done.
  • Ask for what you need, quiet, peace, calm, time, a peaceful environment.
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Their energy may be totally out of sync with everyone else’s

There’s nothing wrong with your energy being different from that of other people.

However, there’s a secret to forming relationships: when you’re able to mirror the body language, and energy level of another, you bond with them.

If they’re slow and conservative, and you’re pinging off the walls, they won’t feel able to relax with you.

Alternatively, if they’re fast-talking, all action, and you’ve slumped into a depression, there’s also likely to be a disconnect.

SOLUTION:

  • Find people who match your energy.
  • Pick different people to hang out with at different times, depending on your energy.
  • If you’re not happy with your energy, you’re likely to be around people who struggle with theirs.
  • Work on you first, then seek people who resonate at your frequency.

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DOWNLOAD OUR FREE ADHD Relationship Survival Guide

Truly understand, connect, and have the relationship you always dreamed.

Grab Now
Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

Rivers know this: there is no hurry. We shall get there some day.” - A.A. Milne

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