Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

Only where children gather is there any real chance of fun.” - Mignon McLaughlin

BY FAR THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP TO HELPING YOUR CHILD IS TO GET TO KNOW YOUR CHILD FIRST!

  • In the old days, children with ADHD were misunderstood and punished for their behavior.
  • Nowadays, there’s a little more understanding, but for the most part, they’re given solutions and rules to follow (hang your keys here, use this alarm there, etc.)
  • What’s missing and will get the results you want is the step of getting to know your child BEFORE applying solutions

WHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT?

  • ADHD is primarily a state where the child feels overwhelmed and afraid.
  • You may not see the causes since their behavior is REACTIVE.
  • The greatest gift you can give to a child with ADHD is the gift of knowing and understanding their struggles.
  • This will help them CALM and REGULATE their behavior.
  • When this happens, the brain fires back up and the symptoms lessen. It’s a chicken and egg scenario

CAN THIS UNDERSTANDING ‘CURE’ ADHD?

  • There is no ‘cure’, since your child will always be unique, full of wonder, promise, potential, and sensitivity (awareness of the good things, as well as overwhelming awareness of sensations and emotions, etc.)
  • When you understand your child, and he feels safe and loved, you are halfway there
  • The other half lies in knowing how to embrace his/ her strengths and help them manage their sensitivities.

HOW DO I GET TO KNOW MY ADHD CHILD BETTER?

  • Sit with your child. Literally, sit with or get down on the floor with him/her, meet your child right where he/she is at, both mentally and physically.
  • Let go of the desire for your child to meet you where you are. Meet your child where they are.
  • Notice the songs he/ she is listening to. What is special about the songs? The lyrics? What are they? Is it the beat, the melody? Why are they important to your child?
  • What do they enjoy watching on TV? Why? You’ll find clues about your child through his/her interests and passions.
  • Similarly, with computer games; learn a little about the games your child enjoys (even if it isn’t your thing!) to understand what makes him/her tick.
  • What friends does your child enjoy hanging out with? Again, why? What are their likes, interests, and personalities?
  • Look to your child’s emotions. Past the reactionary ones and into what’s behind them. Try to make sense of their highs and lows.
  • Understand their body language (this is HUGE!) what can you learn from this?
  • Look to your small interactions; the things your child chooses to share with you. There’s often more here than is immediately obvious.

THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SITTING WITH YOUR CHILD, AND LETTING YOUR CHILD MANIPULATE YOU!

Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Children see magic because they look for it.”  - Christopher Moore

FEATURE HIGHLIGHTS


By far the most important step to helping your child is to get to know your child first!

Your child with ADHD will always be unique, full of wonder, promise, potential, and sensitivity (awareness of the good things, as well as overwhelming awareness of sensations and emotions, etc.)

Let go of your desire for your child to meet you where you are. Meet them where they are.

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Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Young Adult, ADHD Teen, ADHD Teenager

Only where children gather is there any real chance of fun.” - Mignon McLaughlin

BY FAR THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP TO HELPING YOUR CHILD IS TO GET TO KNOW YOUR CHILD FIRST!

    • In the old days, children with ADHD were misunderstood and punished for their behavior.
    • Nowadays, there’s a little more understanding, but for the most part, they’re given solutions and rules to follow (hang your keys here, use this alarm there, etc.)
    • What’s missing and will get the results you want is the step of getting to know your child BEFORE applying solutions.

WHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT?

    • ADHD is primarily a state where the child feels overwhelmed and afraid.
    • You may not see the causes since their behavior is REACTIVE.
    • The greatest gift you can give to a child with ADHD is the gift of knowing and understanding their struggles.
    • This will help them CALM and REGULATE their behavior.
    • When this happens, the brain fires back up and the symptoms lessen. It’s a chicken and egg scenario.

FEATURE HIGHLIGHTS


By far the most important step to helping your child is to get to know your child first!

Your child with ADHD will always be unique, full of wonder, promise, potential, and sensitivity (awareness of the good things, as well as overwhelming awareness of sensations and emotions, etc.)

Let go of your desire for your child to meet you where you are. Meet them where they are.

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CAN THIS UNDERSTANDING ‘CURE’ ADHD?

    • There is no ‘cure’ since your child will always be unique, full of wonder, promise, potential, and sensitivity (awareness of the good things, as well as overwhelming awareness of sensations and emotions, etc.).
    • When you understand your child, and he feels safe and loved, you are halfway there.
    • The other half lies in knowing how to embrace his/ her strengths and help them manage their sensitivities.

HOW DO I GET TO KNOW MY ADHD CHILD BETTER?

  • Sit with your child. Literally, sit with or get down on the floor with him/her, meet your child right where he/she is at, both mentally and physically.
  • Let go of the desire for your child to meet you where you are. Meet your child where they are.
  • Notice the songs he/ she is listening to. What is special about the songs? The lyrics? What are they? Is it the beat, the melody? Why are they important to your child?
  • What do they enjoy watching on TV? Why? You’ll find clues about your child through his/her interests and passions.
  • Similarly, with computer games; learn a little about the games your child enjoys (even if it isn’t your thing!) to understand what makes him/her tick.
  • What friends does your child enjoy hanging out with? Again, why? What are their likes, interests, and personalities?
  • Look to your child’s emotions. Past the reactionary ones and into what’s behind them. Try to make sense of their highs and lows.
  • Understand their body language (this is HUGE!) what can you learn from this?
  • Look to your small interactions; the things your child chooses to share with you. There’s often more here than is immediately obvious.

THERE’S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN SITTING WITH YOUR CHILD, AND LETTING YOUR CHILD MANIPULATE YOU!

Skye Baloo Carnegie, ADHD, Autism, HSP, ADHD Parent, ADHD Grandparent

Children see magic because they look for it.”  - Christopher Moore

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