This is a moment in history. You're the only you who has ever been born, and the only you who ever will be.” - Skye Baloo Carnegie
WHY IT’S EASY TO BE HARD ON YOURSELF
- It’s easy to beat yourself up when society says you don’t fit in
- It’s easy to give up on yourself and refuse to treat yourself with kindness, care and worth, when others don’t understand you.
- When others show intolerance, anger, criticism or disregard, it’s easy to internalize it and treat yourself the same way.
- Dorothy Law Nolte wrote an excellent poem called, ‘Children Learn What They Live’.
- When society is hard on you, the pattern often repeats in relationships throughout life. When you lack confidence, people sense it, and continue to be rough on you.
- It’s easy to get used to problems, and attracting difficult people into your life almost becomes comfortable
WHEN IT’S HARD TO BELIEVE IN YOU...
- The only reason this website exists is because you matter SO MUCH. You are so precious!
- No more suffering.
- You’re amazing, with brilliance flooding through your veins, and a rare sensitivity to life.
- People with ADHD have an innate goodness and possess wonderful gifts and talents.
- I believe in you, and our community is here to support you every step of the way.
- The fast track to being ok, is you getting to know you; stepping into your uniqueness and finding support in the areas of struggle.
THE PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE PLEASING
When we’re babies, we have an inbuilt mechanism to do what we need to be held, fed,
and taken care of.
It means we learn to people please from the start!
We look to our caretakers us as small gods. We forget to listen to ourselves and our inner knowing.
We believe the things
they say we are.
We become crushed people with crushed spirits.
This leads to depression, anxiety, eating disorders and addictions.
When they tell us we need to believe in ourselves, we discover we no longer know who we are anymore.
WHAT BELIEVING IN YOU MEANS
You have gifts and talents and an emotional awareness that is beautiful. It’s important to focus on the positives and let them guide you through life.
Being overwhelmed is real. You’ll always be extra sensitive.
When you have clarity on your unique areas of sensitivity, you can make accommodations for them, and reduce or eliminate the struggle.
Believing in you means knowing there’s more; an awareness of the potential of life, and of being connected to something incredible.
BELIEVING IN YOURSELF RATHER THAN GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER
Many people put their belief in others. Even when they rebel, they rebel because they want to matter.
It takes all the courage in the world to be ourselves due to an innate belief that if we don’t people please, we’ll be abandoned.
The paradox is that when you have inner confidence, people respect you, and want to be around you more.
In order to be you, you have to get to know you. Follow your instincts, be still, grounded and regulated in the ways you need to. Nature is great at helping with this, but we all have our different ways of nurturing our souls.
WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW
Take a sheet of paper and write your hopes and dreams.
List 3 special things you know about yourself.
Take 3 things you really struggle with…..and flip them around.
Example:
If one of these things is that you don’t have many friends, ask how you can be the best friend to you?
If you feel out of control, ask yourself what things you need in order to feel in control.
List 3 ways you can actively celebrate yourself today. And do it!!
I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” - Agatha Christie
FEATURE HIGHLIGHTS
It takes all the courage in the world to be ourselves due to an innate belief that if we don’t people please, we’ll be abandoned.
The paradox is that when you have inner confidence, people respect you, and want to be around you more.
In order to be you, you have to get to know you. Follow your instincts, be still, grounded and regulated in the ways you need to.
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Itty, Bitty, Sh!tty CommitteeeBook
The world will put countless obstacles in your path but none will be as big as the ones you create for yourself. We call it, your own personal Itty, Bitty, Sh!tty Committee.
This is a moment in history. You're the only you who has ever been born, and the only you who ever will be.” - Skye Baloo Carnegie
WHY IT’S EASY TO BE HARD ON YOURSELF
- It’s easy to beat yourself up when society says you don’t fit in.
- It’s easy to give up on yourself and refuse to treat yourself with kindness, care, and worth, when others don’t understand you.
- When others show intolerance, anger, criticism, or disregard, it’s easy to internalize it and treat yourself the same way.
- Dorothy Law Nolte wrote an excellent poem called, ‘Children Learn What They Live’.
- When society is hard on you, the pattern often repeats in relationships throughout life. When you lack confidence, people sense it, and continue to be rough on you.
- It’s easy to get used to problems, and attracting difficult people into your life almost becomes comfortable.
FEATURE HIGHLIGHTS
It takes all the courage in the world to be ourselves due to an innate belief that if we don’t people please, we’ll be abandoned.
The paradox is that when you have inner confidence, people respect you, and want to be around you more.
In order to be you, you have to get to know you. Follow your instincts, be still, grounded and regulated in the ways you need to.
RECOMMENDED FOR YOU
Itty, Bitty, Sh!tty Committee eBook
The world will put countless obstacles in your path but none will be as big as the ones you create for yourself. We call it, your own personal Itty, Bitty, Sh!tty Committee.
WHEN IT’S HARD TO BELIEVE IN YOU...
- The only reason this website exists is because you matter SO MUCH. You are so precious!
- No more suffering.
- You’re amazing, with brilliance flooding through your veins, and a rare sensitivity to life.
- People with ADHD have an innate goodness and possess wonderful gifts and talents.
- I believe in you, and our community is here to support you every step of the way.
- The fast track to being ok, is you getting to know you; stepping into your uniqueness and finding support in the areas of struggle.
THE PROBLEM WITH PEOPLE PLEASING
When we’re babies, we have an inbuilt mechanism to do what we need to be held, fed and taken care of.
It means we learn to people please from the start!
We look to our caretakers us as small gods. We forget to listen to ourselves and our inner knowing.
We believe the things they say we are.
We become crushed people with crushed spirits.
This leads to depression, anxiety, eating disorders and addictions.
When they tell us we need to believe in ourselves, we discover we no longer know who we are anymore.
WHAT BELIEVING IN YOU MEANS
You have gifts and talents and an emotional awareness that is beautiful. It’s important to focus on the positives and let them guide you through life.
Being overwhelmed is real. You’ll always be extra sensitive.
When you have clarity on your unique areas of sensitivity, you can make accommodations for them, and reduce or eliminate the struggle.
Believing in you means knowing there’s more; an awareness of the potential of life, and of being connected to something incredible.
BELIEVING IN YOURSELF RATHER THAN GIVING AWAY YOUR POWER
Many people put their belief in others. Even when they rebel, they rebel because they want to matter.
It takes all the courage in the world to be ourselves due to an innate belief that if we don’t people please, we’ll be abandoned.
The paradox is that when you have inner confidence, people respect you, and want to be around you more.
In order to be you, you have to get to know you. Follow your instincts, be still, grounded and regulated in the ways you need to. Nature is great at helping with this, but we all have our different ways of nurturing our souls.
WHAT YOU CAN DO RIGHT NOW
Take a sheet of paper and write your hopes and dreams.
List 3 special things you know about yourself.
Take 3 things you really struggle with…..and flip them around.
Example:
If one of these things is that you don’t have many friends, ask how you can be the best friend to you?
If you feel out of control, ask yourself what things you need in order to feel in control.
List 3 ways you can actively celebrate yourself today. And do it!!
I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow; but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.” - Agatha Christie
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