Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full.” - Rumi
WELCOME!
Thank you for being here! It likely means you’re being driven insane by your partner with ADHD :-D, or you think, ADHD might be behind some of their behaviors and are dedicated to helping him/her.
WE’RE HERE FOR YOU TOO!
DATING SOMEONE WITH ADHD CAN BE CHALLENGING BECAUSE THEY MAY
- Say they care, yet act like they don’t.
- Appear to focus on irrelevant things, and miss the important stuff.
- Consistently run late. Appear not to prioritize you.
- Be scattered in thoughts and actions.
- Forget all kinds of things (particularly things you’ve said).
- Become easily frustrated.
- Be hypersensitive to things you say sometimes, and seem emotionless at others.
- Go into hyperfocus, leaving you feeling you don’t matter.
- Be poor at managing money.
- Get anxious, depressed, or have low energy.
- Be intense and serious even when they should be having fun.
- Be obtuse, verbose, and repetitive.
- Continuously interrupt.
Add your own needs to this compilation, and it can be quite a mix.
THE GREAT NEWS is that a simple understanding of each other, can transform communication and ease frustration.
People with ADHD have fabulous qualities and extraordinary talents. Many world changers have ADHD. Richard Branson, Thomas Edison, Vincent Van Gogh, are great examples.
SOME COMMON STRUGGLES
TIME
Being on time and/or having concept of time.
MEMORY
Forgetting both important and unimportant things.
ATTENTION AND FOCUS
Having trouble getting started, staying focused, or checking out altogether. Particularly if it’s boring, overwhelming or tedious.
LAZINESS
Accused of laziness (although they try twice as hard as other people).
TRYING HARD
The theme of ADHD, is trying hard! ADHD leads to confusion and struggle, but they persevere.
STRESS
Causes fight or flight impulses; the brain goes into hyper focus or freezes.
DETAIL
There’s little interest in details. It feels like a waste of time to drill down to the particulars.
OVERWHELMED AND OUT OF CONTROL
Unable to keep going when there are too many stimuli.
OCD IS COMMON WITH ADHD
OCD can be a subconscious way of attempting to control when it seems there’s none.
EMOTIONAL SENSITIVITIES (INCLUDING RSD)
They may seem to be drama queens but are emotionally hair-triggered. They are happier on a high, and sadder on a low. There is little middle ground.
THE 5 SENSES ARE ON HYPER ALERT (HEARING, TOUCH, SMELL, ETC):
Dealing with the sensation of minutia, the hum of an air conditioner, the click of a clock, everything is magnified, and at times unbearable.
STOMACH UPSETS AND OTHER PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
Stress interferes with digestion, energy, brain fog, muscle fatigue, headaches, etc.
DISTRACTED, SCATTERED AND FRANTIC
Attention is pulled away from their jobs, their relationships, their chores, everything.
ANXIETY IS COMMON WITH ADHD
The stress of trying to conform and keep up leads to emotional upsets and panic attacks.
FEELING ALIENATED
And different from others.
SOME OF THE MANY FABULOUS QUALITIES
- UNIQUENESS
- AREAS OF GENIUS
- GREAT ENERGY
- HARDWORKING
- PERSEVERING
- DETERMINED
- GENEROUS
- DRIVEN
- CREATIVE
- SMART
- KIND
- SENSITIVE
- INVENTIVE
- SPONTANEOUS
- FUNNY
- CHARMING
- ABILITY TO HYPERFOCUS
- RESILIENT
- FLEXIBLE
- SPARKLING PERSONALITY
- HOPEFUL
- RISK TAKERS
- CONVERSATIONALISTS
- PASSIONATE
WHY DO THESE SYMPTOMS AND BRILLIANCES EXIST?
Are people with ADHD are born with a different brain?
This is an unknown, although there is a 45% of a child having ADHD if one or both parents do. People with ADHD certainly seem to be born extra sensitive.
This means that they’ll be extra sensitive to things like light, sound, touch, and emotions (everyone has a different combination). This can be difficult to live with until it’s managed.
On the other hand, people with ADHD are also extra sensitive and hyper-aware. For example, they are empathic and sensitive, and exhibit gifts and talents in many areas.
STRESS AND THE BRAIN
Being hyper-sensitive while living on earth, makes existing difficult.
PLUS
Being overwhelmed by stimuli
Is HARD!
Sensitivity can lead to Trauma/stress
Stress affects the brain causing it to shut down short-term memory, to panic, or become scattered.
WHAT TO DO FIRST
UNDERSTAND ADHD:
Life with ADHD. Checkout Our Resources
DOWNLOAD THE FREE E-BOOK
UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER
Understand your fit with your partner. You each brought qualities to the relationship. Once you’re clear on these, you can use your strengths to build a better life.
PATIENCE
Take time, be understanding, patient, and kind. ADHD is real. Your partner is likely to be trying hard to make things work.
STRATEGIES
Many practical strategies can help people with ADHD (such as setting a timer 10 minutes before something needs to be wrapped up, wearing ear plugs if there’s overwhelming sensitivity to noise, etc.)
RIGHT NOW
What are 3 things you’re struggling with in the relationship?
List 5 incredible things about ADHD in the relationship.
What do you need to do right now in order to address the struggles?
Pick a fun thing to do today, to bring perspective to the relationship
Check out our ADHD Relationship Survival Guide for suggestions!
What do you need from the relationship, and how can you communicate this to your partner?
When you know that writing your own book of life is so difficult to begin with, the least you can do for someone else, is to try to read the pages of a person rather than skip through the chapters.” - Lauren Klarfeld
RECOMMENDED FOR YOU
DOWNLOAD OUR FREE ADHD Relationship Survival Guide
Truly understand, connect, and have the relationship you always dreamed.
Patience is not sitting and waiting, it is foreseeing. It is looking at the thorn and seeing the rose, looking at the night and seeing the day. Lovers are patient and know that the moon needs time to become full.” - Rumi
WELCOME!
Thank you for being here! It likely means you’re being driven insane by your partner with ADHD :-D, or you think, ADHD might be behind some of their behaviors and are dedicated to helping him/her.
WE’RE HERE FOR YOU TOO!
RECOMMENDED FOR YOU
DOWNLOAD OUR FREE ADHD Relationship Survival Guide
Truly understand, connect, and have the relationship you always dreamed.
DATING SOMEONE WITH ADHD CAN BE CHALLENGING BECAUSE THEY MAY
- Say they care, yet act like they don’t.
- Appear to focus on irrelevant things, and miss the important stuff.
- Consistently run late. Appear not to prioritize you.
- Be scattered in thoughts and actions.
- Forget all kinds of things (particularly things you’ve said).
- Become easily frustrated.
- Be hypersensitive to things you say sometimes, and seem emotionless at others.
- Be intense and serious even when they should be having fun.
- Get anxious, depressed, or have low energy.
- Be poor at managing money.
- Go into hyperfocus, leaving you feeling you don’t matter.
- Be obtuse, verbose, and repetitive.
- Continuously interrupt.
Add your own needs to this compilation, and it can be quite a mix.
THE GREAT NEWS is that a simple understanding of each other, can transform communication and ease frustration.
People with ADHD have fabulous qualities and extraordinary talents. Many world changers have ADHD. Richard Branson, Thomas Edison, Vincent Van Gogh, are great examples.
SOME COMMON STRUGGLES
TIME
Being on time and/or having concept of time.
MEMORY
Forgetting both important and unimportant things.
ATTENTION AND FOCUS
Having trouble getting started, staying focused, or checking out altogether. Particularly if it’s boring, overwhelming or tedious.
LAZINESS
Accused of laziness (although they try twice as hard as other people).
TRYING HARD
The theme of ADHD, is trying hard! ADHD leads to confusion and struggle, but they persevere.
STRESS
Causes fight or flight impulses; the brain goes into hyper focus or freezes.
DETAIL
There’s little interest in details. It feels like a waste of time to drill down to the particulars.
OVERWHELMED AND OUT OF CONTROL
Unable to keep going when there are too many stimuli.
OCD IS COMMON WITH ADHD
OCD can be a subconscious way of attempting to control when it seems there’s none.
EMOTIONAL SENSITIVITIES (INCLUDING RSD)
They may seem to be drama queens but are emotionally hair-triggered. They are happier on a high, and sadder on a low. There is little middle ground.
THE 5 SENSES ARE ON HYPER ALERT (HEARING, TOUCH, SMELL, ETC):
Dealing with the sensation of minutia, the hum of an air conditioner, the click of a clock, everything is magnified, and at times unbearable.
STOMACH UPSETS AND OTHER PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS
Stress interferes with digestion, energy, brain fog, muscle fatigue, headaches, etc.
DISTRACTED, SCATTERED AND FRANTIC
Attention is pulled away from their jobs, their relationships, their chores, everything.
ANXIETY IS COMMON WITH ADHD
The stress of trying to conform and keep up leads to emotional upsets and panic attacks.
FEELING ALIENATED
And different from others.
SOME OF THE MANY FABULOUS QUALITIES
- UNIQUENESS
- AREAS OF GENIUS
- GREAT ENERGY
- HARDWORKING
- PERSEVERING
- DETERMINED
- GENEROUS
- DRIVEN
- CREATIVE
- SMART
- KIND
- SENSITIVE
- INVENTIVE
- SPONTANEOUS
- FUNNY
- CHARMING
- ABILITY TO HYPERFOCUS
- RESILIENT
- FLEXIBLE
- SPARKLING PERSONALITY
- HOPEFUL
- RISK TAKERS
- CONVERSATIONALISTS
- PASSIONATE
WHY DO THESE SYMPTOMS AND BRILLIANCES EXIST?
Are people with ADHD are born with a different brain?
This is an unknown, although there is a 45% of a child having ADHD if one or both parents do. People with ADHD certainly seem to be born extra sensitive.
This means that they’ll be extra sensitive to things like light, sound, touch, and emotions (everyone has a different combination). This can be difficult to live with until it’s managed.
On the other hand, people with ADHD are also extra sensitive and hyper-aware. For example, they are empathic and sensitive, and exhibit gifts and talents in many areas.
STRESS AND THE BRAIN
Being hyper-sensitive while living on earth, makes existing difficult.
PLUS
Being overwhelmed by stimuli
Is HARD!
Sensitivity can lead to Trauma/stress
Stress affects the brain causing it to shut down short-term memory, to panic, or become scattered.
WHAT TO DO FIRST
UNDERSTAND ADHD:
Life with ADHD. Checkout Our Resources
DOWNLOAD THE FREE E-BOOK
UNDERSTAND EACH OTHER
Understand your fit with your partner. You each brought qualities to the relationship. Once you’re clear on these, you can use your strengths to build a better life.
PATIENCE
Take time, be understanding, patient, and kind. ADHD is real. Your partner is likely to be trying hard to make things work.
STRATEGIES
Many practical strategies can help people with ADHD (such as setting a timer 10 minutes before something needs to be wrapped up, wearing ear plugs if there’s overwhelming sensitivity to noise, etc.)
RIGHT NOW
What are 3 things you’re struggling with in the relationship?
List 5 incredible things about ADHD in the relationship.
What do you need to do right now in order to address the struggles?
Pick a fun thing to do today, to bring perspective to the relationship
Check out our ADHD Relationship Survival Guide for suggestions!
What do you need from the relationship, and how can you communicate this to your partner?
When you know that writing your own book of life is so difficult to begin with, the least you can do for someone else, is to try to read the pages of a person rather than skip through the chapters.” - Lauren Klarfeld
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